"Most times, it's better to be kind than right."
Many do not even realize that they are compulsively motivated by a burning need to be right. It's a common human trait, born from a deep-seated need for validation and sometimes, for control.
For others, it’s because they’re afraid of being wrong, or maybe it’s because they’ve bought into the illusion that being right somehow makes them superior.
Acid Test: The true test of whether you are given to a need to be right, is whether you can let go of it on the occasions that you may very well be right about something.
To be big enough to do that means resisting a need to control. Here’s a helpful checklist:
- Do you trust people to learn their own lessons in their own time and way?
- Do you find yourself constantly correcting errors people make in their vocabulary?
- Do you thrive on the acknowledgement you get for being right?
- Do you allow people their own opinions and perspectives?
A Broader, More Spacious Way of Being
Humans are complex creatures, each with our own unique set of needs, desires, and quirks. Think about it: we have different tastes in music, movies, and food. We prefer different colors, smells, and textures. And let's not even get started on our opinions on pineapple on pizza.
Instead of getting caught up in the drama of being right, why not try a different approach? Instead of judging and criticising others, try seeing the value in what they ‘bring to the table’ - even if they don't meet your specific needs.
After all, what might be a waste of time for you could be a treasure trove for someone else.
By dropping the need to be right, we open the door to compassion. Suddenly, the person who irritates us becomes someone we can empathize with. We may not agree with their choices, but we can respect that they are doing what makes sense for them in their world. And in doing so, we allow ourselves to focus on meeting our own needs without expecting others to supply them to us.
Being compassionate doesn’t require you to agree with everyone. It simply means recognizing that we’re all doing the best we can with the tools and knowledge we have. We can stand behind our own beliefs while allowing others to stand behind theirs. Isn’t that a more peaceful way to live?
Getting the Bigger Picture
To help you let go of the need to be right, try this quirky little exercise: imagine yourself as a fluffy cloud floating through the sky. As you drift along, observe the world below without judgment or attachment. Notice the diversity of life, the beauty of nature, and the interconnectedness of everything.
By letting go of the need to be right, you'll free yourself from unnecessary stress and conflict. You'll also discover a new sense of peace, joy, and connection with others.
Hot tip: Next time you find yourself getting caught up in a debate, remember the fluffy cloud and let it go.
Ultimately, the need to be right is a heavy burden. By letting go of that need, you free up mental and emotional space for more meaningful connections. You stop wasting energy on trying to change others and instead invest in becoming the best version of yourself.
Conclusion: So, the next time you find yourself getting into a heated argument, take a step back and ask yourself: Is it really worth it to prove your point? Or would it be better to simply agree to disagree?
Remember, there's no shame in admitting that you don't know everything. In fact, it's a sign of wisdom and humility.
Disclaimer: This article is for informational purposes only and does not constitute professional medical or psychological advice. Please consult with a qualified healthcare professional for personalized guidance.
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